As the reproductive organs in the body of a child
begin to function, the child develops new interest in matters of s^x and new
sensations relative to the reproductive organs (S^x Organs) are very sensitive
to stimulation. The mere handling of these organs causes them to respond by a
readiness for s*xual activity.
The term masturbation is
common among the males and it is developed from the adolescent stage of life
whereby a child is dared to know more about the s*x organs and s*x in
particular.
This takes us to the
main point;
What is
Masturbation?
Masturbation is a process whereby one arouses oneself by fondling the s*x organ in
order to achieve or derive s*xual pleasure.
Or
Masturbation is the habit of artificially stimulating the external reproductive
organs.
Although people
masturbate get relieved off s*xual urge and nervous tensions, it is a dangerous
habit which is developed without the person’s knowledge or consent.
Masturbating is an exciting experience, which if indulged in; there is an urge
or desire to practice again. It has been established at the scientific level
that is not necessary for a young adult to give expressions of his or her urge
in order to live normally and healthfully. Nature makes adequate provision for
the release of s*xual tension in a young adult through the normally occurring
seminal emissions. Thus, there is no justification for masturbation.
Furthermore, certain
consequences of the practice of masturbation are definitely detrimental.
From the above insight
on masturbation, let’s take a look at the consequences of masturbation.
Consequences of
Masturbation:
·
Masturbation squanders
one’s reserved of nervous energy. This interferes with the person’s application
to study, energy for sports and zest for wholesome activities.
·
Masturbation has effect
on a young person’s self-esteem. This habit is typically practised in solitude
or in company with someone else who has similar interest, a young person finds
it hard to mingle with people.
·
Masturbation is
associated psychologically with the fear of discovery and not humiliation. This
robs a person off the ability to square his shoulders and face life without
apology or embarrassment.
·
Masturbation results in
the formation of a dominant habit which tends to control ones conduct in spite
of his desire otherwise. Once the habit is established, the day’s events seen
to centre on the opportunity to masturbate.
·
The establishment of any
habit, particularly one as demanding as masturbation robs a person of his ability
to be in command of his own affairs. In this sense, masturbation does as great
damage to the personality as does drug addiction or smoking or the use of
liquor.
·
Masturbation interferes
with an ideal adjustment in marriage. The habit of masturbation actually rests
on a selfish motive – the desire to obtain personal pleasure of the moment. In
marriage by contrast, the greatest pleasure is derived from the physical
expressions of love when each partner is unselfishly concerned with the others
pleasure and comfort.
Not only outlining the
consequences, but now we come to the practical question which a parent needs to
have answered.
How can I keep my child, at the threshold period of life from
establishing a habit of masturbation?
·
The fist phase to answer
requires that there be congenial relationship between parent and child by
which, as a part of the rewards of companionship, the child has confidence in
the parent and will accept his counsel as reliable and valid.
·
Second, a parent should
inform his/her child, step by step as the child’s intellectual capacity
increases, regarding the organs of his body, their functions, and the means of
caring for them well. In doing include the s*x organs also.
·
A third means of helping
the child is to arrange his daily programme in such a manner as to keep him so
active and interested in whole some pursuits that time will not weigh heavily
on his hands. A lonely child with nothing to do is an easy candidate for s*xual
experimentation. But the child with a reasonable amount of work to do, an
interest in sports, and fascinating hobbies to occupy his spare time, will not
be easily tempted to experiment with s*x.
·
Still another suggestion
is to help the child choose carefully friends from his age. Many a child, whose
attitudes have been wholesome, has already established the habit and who has an
urge to share the experience with someone else.
In conclusion, measures
should be made again of the greatest influence of all in guiding a child of the
threshold period safely over the pitfalls of adolescence–the parents’ example.
As expressed in incidental remarks and even in unspoken attitudes, this
practical demonstration gives a child his clue for a code of conduct. A child
discern, even without receiving direct counsel on the matter, whether his
parents consider the intimate phases of life to be pure and lovely or whether
they consider questionable conduct.
The parent who makes
slurring remarks about womanhood, who enjoys off-colour jokes, or who follows a
double standard of living as far as his own marriage is concerned, is
unconsciously preparing his child to follow an immoral way of life. But the
parent who is sincere in his appreciation of beauty and purity and who has an
honest respect for the sacredness of the human body will transmit theses
attitudes to the child. Then the child will develop, other factors being
favourable, a similar appreciation for life’s values.
